A bridesmaid, though the position is the butt of many jokes, is an integral part of a wedding. The bridesmaids are on hand to comfort, console, multitask, and party at all bridal events. Here is a brief job description for you to follow.

Offer to help with prewedding tasts. Try to be as specific as possible…offer to do specific things, rather than just saying “what can I do?” Scout out bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewelry, and other accessories. Pay for your ensemble. Here’s a tip, break in your shoes before the wedding day. Help to plan, cohost, and pay for the shower and bachelorette party with the other bridesmaids.

If the Maid of Honor is not already handling this task, keep a record of all gifts received at events, and maintain RSVP lists. Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. Run last minute errands, and on the wedding day, be available to confirm delivery times, meet and greet vendors, or even satisfy junk food cravings. Serve as auxiliary hostess at the reception, by introducing and directing guests when needed. Hit the dance floor when the music starts! Keep an eye out for guests who might need a dance partner!

Give the maid of honor a break when needed. Purchase a wedding gift with one or several of the bridesmaids. This provides more buying power, and you can all kick in for one knock your socks off gift! Be a trooper, no matter how stressful things become. Don’t complain about the dress, be gracious and tactful. Last but not least, provide plenty of emotional support.