I was twice a bridesmaids and I know exactly how it feels like to be one for a friend's wedding....totally torn between being happy and madly sad! This is, I found out, an extremely common situation where you become the bridesmaid for your friend's wedding and you feel sad that you're no longer going to have your best friend all to yourself anymore. If you're feeling this kind of anxious feeling, let's just say it wouldn't make any sense to let your anxiousness and fears spoil your excitement for your friend's wedding. This is HER once in a lifetime thing and just because you're thinking of yourself (although it's normal), you can't spoil her big day for her. And yet, you're sitting there thinking 'How dare this bloke come around and whisk your best friend off her feet! The cheek on that guy....I got her first!'

Well, this is life, isn't it? But here are some tips on how to deal with the bridesmaid's blues.

One way to snap out of this condition is to remind yourself that with this wedding, your friendship is going to take a new turn. You're not leaving anything behind after the wedding. In fact, after the wedding, your relationship will make a maturing transition onto another stage. And that's a good thing!

And aren't best friends about 'understanding' each other and sticking with each other through thick or thin even with the wedding date looming ahead? Now's the time, the wedding, to be supportive and understanding.

You know what? After my friends' weddings, I found that the 'change' may have reduced the number of hours we have with each other but it made every time we meet ever more cherished and happy. No, seriously. After the wedding, my friends commit most of their time with their newfound husbands but every time they're with me, they let me know, thankfully, that they are completely mine!

So go on and have fun during your friend's wedding and stop fretting about the amount of time you will have with your friend once the wedding is over. The wedding, the new husband is not your fiend unless you make them one.